Loony Tunes Play the Cardinal Sins

Jessica Rabbit plays Lust

I've addressed this problem in greater detail below. It was my core issue and resulted in challenges of all kinds throughout my life, but I tend to think of it as an issue central to all life, and found comfort in things like the Creation Story and scripture. Meeting with others to discuss my anxiety and reactions really helped! Here are some of the places I've tried: Bible Studies and Meetings

Lust, usually thought of as intense, unbridled sexual desire can also mean fervent desire in general, such as lust for money or power. The point is that it is a form of selfishness that has damaging consequences, and indulgence of these kinds detracts from more meaningful opportunities to be loving and intimate - among other things.

Foghorn Leghorn Plays Pride

My experience with this is not unusual. I was completely unaware of what was troubling other members of my family, I didn't realize that some of the tasks I was required to perform were disturbing, and difficult for others to live with. Please see: Historical Treatments. I knew something was wrong, but I didn't sort it out in time.

False pride is considered to be the original, and therefor the source of all other deadly sins. It is identified as dangerously corrupt selfishness: Putting one's self, ego, or selfishness before the welfare others. Again, Loony Tunes demonstrates the consequences of this kind of behavior really well in the character of Foghorn Leghorn.

Mr. Magoo Plays Acedia

One of the most difficult problems I had was based upon another deadly sin: Acedia, or the failure to do what needs to be done. Because the use of labels resulted in Despair, I gave up on a competitive life, and I failed to do what I needed to do on my own (Acedia). My self-esteem plummeted, and as I lost faith in myself, my lack of confidence eroded my ability to use my talents - resulting in (Sloth). Had it not been for the mercy of you, God, and others, I really would have died. Please see: Step Primer.

These really are deadly sins! If we cannot get our needs met for whatever reason, we have to rely upon you and the mercy of others or we will perish. Please see: Resources

What does it boil down to for you?

  • I realized.... 

    What really bothered me was very simple! I was afraid of powerful sex. When I was young, I saw powerful displays of sexuality that I didn't believe I could live up to. Please see: Lust

  • Acting out of fear...

    I tempted the very thing I was afraid of just to see if I would measure up, and when I was defeated, I mocked the injustice, and demanded to be heard. Even when what I said was life threatening, I carried on completely unaware of how damaging I'd become. So I've written some new boundaries, and a plan here: Consent, Boundaries & Treatment Plans

  • Then...

    When The Fates demanded satisfaction, I declined the opportunity. Sometimes the motivation for my behavior amounted to nothing more than sizing up the competition; to avoid being bested by size or strength, I'd try to determine whether a rival was a real threat or not. For more detail on this specific problem, please see: Transposions, second column 'The Evaluating Mind' (Transpositions)

  • Inevitability...

    While scheming as a mistrustful child, I blindly followed instructions sure to lead to my ruination, and then wondered why I was being hurt. Please see: Retrospective

  • I Had to Ask for Help, and...

    I found options and alternatives that work, and the value of the rights and responsibilities that I've been shown have served not only me, but those I've been able to help as well. I describe a lay implementation of those rights here: Bill of Rights

  • Though we all muddle through...

    To know exactly what fails in life helps us to give back to those who suffer the same fate, or to those who suffer with injuries that result. What's to come: Coming Soon!

Yosemite Sam Plays Anger

Anger is the most damaging emotion and is extremely hard to live with, both as an angry person, and as a witness or victim of anger, so this one needs serious attention to avoid. In addition to being painful, law enforcement and others such as counselors in the health care industry can and will restrict our liberties and/or use drugs and conditioning to prevent us from the opportunity to do harm. Duress, and sanctions such as these alone can create a crisis.

Wrath, or uncontrolled feelings of anger, rage, and hatred, reveals itself in the desire to seek vengeance, results damage to property, injury, violence, and hate that can provoke feuds for centuries. While Sam sometimes wins, his fighting never seems to end! Please try Self Examination if the exercise in Problem Solving found below hasn't worked for you!

Sylvester Plays Gluttony

Obtaining food when we're poor can be a challenge. I wore out my welcome at soup kitchens, and was assaulted in and around the area when going there to eat.

The overindulgence and overconsumption of anything (in this case meaning to gulp down or swallow excessive amounts of food), is considered wrong if the resulting lack causes it to be withheld from the needy. If you're needy, please feel free to make use of the soup kitchens and food shelves in the area, but do what you can to give back. I put together a list of emergency food sources in the area that work hard to do so safely.

Daffy Duck Plays Greed

A few years ago, I was introduced to a Billionaire by way of an investment agreement provided by his agent. Unfortunately, interference with our efforts to finalize the agreement became an international nightmare, and I was left to manage the intent of our agreement, and structures without the financing. During this time, there may have been many who believed I had the assets, or would soon, and the intensity of the harassment and duress I was accustomed to became unbearable. It may even be possible that the assets ended up in the wrong hands due to the transparant nature of my business, crime, or even misrepresentation, so I continued with my primary focus of business by returning to an old publication I tended that tried to address the problems we face when dealing with large capital investments: MEP Publications

Problem Solving Training

When faced with a crisis of our own making, we need to rely upon the judgement of others, and guidance and direction provided by God, and well meaning people and institutions. However, to fully rely upon external control is to loose control over one's own life, resulting in a feeling of futility, and uselessness.

Even if it works as a program of action, we can become dependent upon the program, rather than independent and vibrant with the challenges of life. We were given free-will to become more useful - to actually participate in creation and be useful to God. We are trusted so we can be helpful by working on the problems we were given to solve.

If we learn to trust ourselves and God, then by the power of divine intervention (though we may sometimes make mistakes) we will learn how to be more effective with others, and feel good about our ability to make careful decisions. We will become free of judgements, and confident in ourselves, and our ability to empower each other.

Define the Problem

Exactly what is the problem?

For Example: Though we may not be able to talk about it, we may realize that our relationship has become shallow - that we keep repeating the same meaningless behavior, and that some of the behavior is really harmful, like making up after a fight with fitful sex, knowing full well its only a matter of time before the fighting starts all over again.

This seems like a cycle of abuse. Please see: Cycle of Abuse

The idea is to state the problem clearly in one line. If we're angry, or fearful, we need to work on those troubling emotions before tackling problem solving. Here are some forms that will help resolve those toxic emotions:

Resentment Inventory
Resentment Inventory II

Fear Inventory
Fear Inventory II

Gather Relevant Information

Naturally, we could see a professional for services like couples counseling, or anger management, but if our partner isn't willing to participate in these kinds of activities, or doesn't see our point of view, researching the problem on our own will be very important to us.

We may find that the problem is related to substance abuse, or based upon victim mentality, and the program we choose will necessarily depend on the information we have, as well as what we can find out.

Sometimes, there's nothing that can be done about a lifestyle choice, or an illegal activity, but there are programs and services designed specifically for that kind of obstacle, such as Al-Anon, or CODA. Please see: Anonymous Fellowships

Generate Options

If we've done our research well, we might wake from a dream with a great idea! Keep paper and pen close to jot it down before forgetting, especially at night. A serious researcher gets completely immersed in a problem, and true innovation comes from within.

While we may find guidance and direction online, most of the problems that deeply trouble each of us are usually based on our own circumstances and behavior, so don't hesitate to do self-examination if necessary, just to become clear about our own influence on the situation.

(We don't want to become the problem.) Please see: Self Examination, or refer to these worksheets here for an evaluation of what might be wrong, and what to do instead. Its up to us!

Conduct Inventory
Conduct Inventory II

Evaluate Options

Use a Decision Tree: Please see: Decision Tree, to more easily see what the consequences of our decisions will be.

If we're really careful, we can even assign values to each Pro and Con, to emphasize which is most important.

For example, if we are choosing where to live, where we work might be very important. but if one of our options is working at home, then where we work will be wherever we live, and won't matter to our decision at all.

This is a good example of the kind of complexity we need to deal with. Depending upon which option is chosen, the value of the work location will vary. In order to make decisions like these well, we will need to write our options down. Not all options can be evaluated carefully in the mind!

Develop an Action Plan

Create a list of do-able steps. A great example of baby-steps was created by The Founders of the 12-Step Program. (Please see: Step Primer.)

The Program Founders were a part of a Christian Fellowship known as the Oxford Group, and their radical 6-Step Program must have seemed daunting to early sobriety, so rather than doing Restitution in one step, they broke it down into two:

  1. In Step 8, just the list.
  2. And then, in Step 9, the direct amends.

Even each of those steps can become more well developed by listing for example, a break down of Step 8 into:

  • Those to whom we will never make amends,
  • Those to whom we're sure we will,
  • And those to whom we might make amends to after some time in prayer.

I chose not to do this, but suggestions for preparing to make amends are here:

The point is, to write a plan in steps we know we can accomplish.

Evaluate your Results

If you have ever done this before, you already know its a lot of work, but if we've been careful about each step of the process, we will have done our work very well. Every Country, Corporation, Church and People has used this process, or one very much like it. The plan is to share a few strategies to help avoid pitfalls along the way (like victim mentality).

On the evaluation form, we will determine if the time and energy we put into this was worth our while. We'll need to be honest with ourselves about various strategies we've used to achieve peace of mind. Please see: Evaluation Form to determine if anything works for you.